The other day I was trying to buy a wedding dress for my self and somehow all the dresses I saw seemed very commonplace to me. I was looking for something more unique. After spending a good deal of time conversing with my family, talking to my sister and brother-in-law and visiting various websites for designs, I got to thinking why am I looking to buy something unique.
Why do we have this urge in us to try to be unique? Why do we want to stand out in the crowd? Why do we want unique clothes, an exclusive car and an extraordinary house? Is it because of the feel-good factor when people tell us that our dress is different our car is different and admire it? If that is case then why are we so dependent on others to make us feel good about ourselves? Or, is it because we just want to feel good about our own uniqueness? If that is the case then we should understand that all of us are already unique in thousand different ways.
If we try to analyze this from the spiritual view point we will find out that it is exact opposite of what we should be doing! The whole idea of self-realization I thought was to loose our self, loose our ego and the loose our notion of "I". On the other hand, we are increasing our attachment to "I" by trying to stand out. Is it not? Now the question is, whether we should care about it only if we are on spiritual path or should we in any case try to find a moment or two and look deep inside us and find out what is it that we are really trying to achieve by trying to be unique in any possible way?
Why do we have this urge in us to try to be unique? Why do we want to stand out in the crowd? Why do we want unique clothes, an exclusive car and an extraordinary house? Is it because of the feel-good factor when people tell us that our dress is different our car is different and admire it? If that is case then why are we so dependent on others to make us feel good about ourselves? Or, is it because we just want to feel good about our own uniqueness? If that is the case then we should understand that all of us are already unique in thousand different ways.
If we try to analyze this from the spiritual view point we will find out that it is exact opposite of what we should be doing! The whole idea of self-realization I thought was to loose our self, loose our ego and the loose our notion of "I". On the other hand, we are increasing our attachment to "I" by trying to stand out. Is it not? Now the question is, whether we should care about it only if we are on spiritual path or should we in any case try to find a moment or two and look deep inside us and find out what is it that we are really trying to achieve by trying to be unique in any possible way?
Finally, the question is why are we so afraid of being another Tom, Dick or Harry?
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